3 Reason your Boyfriend/Husband Never Listens to You

Good Communication is the cornerstone to a strong relationship, many couples struggle with it and at some point you will hear things like “You never listen to me!” does that sounds familiar? Of course it does. But maybe it’s not his hearing or his understanding to blame. Maybe it’s your approach or your method of delivery that needs a bit of adjusting.

1. Consider the Fact that you Might be too Aggressive

Talking to him in a condescending and belittling way is not only insulting and disrespectful, but it won’t help you get whatever you want, in fact, you could be compromising your relationship, because his reaction is likely to be similar. Or, even worse, defensive.

Try this approach: When addressing an issue, remain calm and avoid preacher-type tactics this might help listen to you better. 

2. Consider the Fact that you become too Emotional

And you start whining or even crying. If you do this, then don’t expect sympathy. He will eventually grow tired of your incessant complaining and negativity.

Try this approach: Own your feelings at the beginning of your conversion with him where you address what it is that is upsetting you, followed by a (positive) solution.

3. Consider the Fact that your timing is always wrong

let’s be honest; most men are unable to multitask. If you go to him with your concern(s) while he’s focused on something else,  like, say, an ‘important’ sports game on TV – then naturally, he won’t be able to give you 100% of his attention.

Try this approach: Tell him that you’d like to talk as soon as possible and then set aside a time that is convenient for both of you. He’ll be more receptive to what you have to say when you’re not blocking his view of that sports game.