Have the Talk
You should probably have a bit of a chat about this giant elephant of a commitment before you decide to do it. And once you do, establish how the whole operation is going to go down. Is the long distance permanent or temporary?
Trust that you aren't crazy:
OK, you are a little crazy, but not any more than usual. They’ll be some crying and moments of weakness where you think that this whole deal totally s*cks and you'll find yourself with ice cream, in bed, weeping.
Hang out in your hood:
Wallowing in self pity while watching Love Actually can be cathartic but it’s probably not a great everyday occurrence. The more active you are, the quicker the time goes. So let your friends be your friends and pack away those sweatpants.
Be a confident queen bee:
Do you think the queen of all bees has time worry about the men in her hive messaging her back while they’re making honey? No, she’s secure enough to know they are hard at work providing and protecting her. Sometimes someone doesn't communicate because they actually do forget, have lost connection, or are honestly busy. Give your partner some leeway.
Don't be a cheater:
Look, people make mistakes that are not what this is about. But, if you or your partner continue to make 'mistakes' then you should question why you are in this relationship in the first place. Long distance is for the committed.
Little achievements:
Halfway, 3 more sleep, going for a weekend away. Count it down
Download as many tools for communication as possible:
We live in a world where we can talk every day, we're like the Jet sons! Try - WhatsApp, Skype, Tango, Sms, Facebook chat, Mixt, and the actual telephone. So send messages and chat often, none of this nonsense about talking too much. You find what works for you and do it.
Make dates to hang out online:
Schedule times where you can virtually be together. Make the same meal and eat it together with a video chat. Or watch a movie at the same time while smsing. Knowing the other person is there to talk to makes it feel like you are still doing the little things together too.
S*xting:
S*xting, phone s*x, or any type of s*xual communication is what’s separating your relationship from just being friends. Plus, pushing your comfort zone in a safe space can bring your 'in person' s*xy time to another level of trust and awareness.
Reminding yourself everyday of the greatest, most amazingly fantastic moment when you are reunited:
Who agrees with me when I say “LOVE IS THE BEST”!
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